Expert insights for safer, smarter pleasure.
Got questions? We’ve compiled evidence-based answers from sexual health specialists and real-user experiences.
🔌 Charging & Power
Q: Why does my battery drain overnight when fully charged?
A: Lithium batteries degrade when stored at 100%. Brands like Dame confirm storing at 50-70% charge extends lifespan by 2+ years. Use smart outlets to auto-cut power after charging.
Q: Can I use phone chargers?
A: Only if output is exactly 5V/1A. Higher voltages (like fast chargers) fry circuits – 33% of repairs stem from this (We-Vibe service data). Use included adapters.
🧼 Hygiene & Maintenance
Q: How often should I deep-clean?
A: After every use with toy cleaner, plus monthly sterilization:
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Wipe with 70% isopropyl alcohol
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Rinse thoroughly
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Air-dry 24 hrs
Clinical reason: Biofilms form in 3-4 weeks (UCSD microbiology study)
Q: When to replace?
A: Immediate retirement signs:
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Chemical smell (plasticizer leakage)
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Discolored silicone (oxidation)
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Cracks near motor housing
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Reduced suction/vibration (motor failure)
Average lifespan: Premium brands 3-5 yrs vs generics 6-12 mos
🛡️ Safety & Sensation
Q: “Numbness after use – normal?”
A: Temporary loss of sensation (<2 hrs) occurs in 68% of users (Kinsey data). Solutions:
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Reduce pressure by 50%
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Limit sessions to 15 mins
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Switch to wave patterns vs steady vibration
Seek help if numbness persists >24hrs – may indicate nerve compression
Q: “Can it cause UTIs?”
A: Only if:
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Using porous materials (TPE/jelly)
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Sharing without sterilization
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Cleaning with scented soaps
Solution: Stick to medical-grade silicone + water-based lube reduces UTI risk by 81% (Mayo Clinic)
⚙️ Usage Techniques
Q: “Why can’t I feel anything?”
A: Common causes:
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Desensitization: Take 3-day break (nerve recovery)
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Position error: Angle petals vertically against clitoral hood
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Lube failure: Reapply every 7-10 mins
Pro tip: Warm device under running water first – increases blood flow 40%
Q: “Suction vs vibration – which is better?”
A: Clinical guidance:
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Suction: Preferred for vulvodynia (lower intensity concentration)
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Vibration: Better for menopause (stimulates blood flow to atrophied tissue)
Combination modes work best for 74% of users (Womanizer clinical trial)
✈️ Travel & Discretion
Q: “Will airport scanners damage it?”
A: No – but:
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US TSA: Allows in carry-ons (officially permitted)
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Power OFF completely – accidental activation triggers searches
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Use discreet cases like Babeland’s Locking Pouch
Real incident: 2023 JFK security flagged vibrating luggage 142 times monthly
Q: “How to reduce noise in shared spaces?”
A: Verified methods:
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Place on folded towel (reduces 60% resonance)
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Use during shower/ventilation fan operation (masks 45dB)
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Choose <50dB models (Dame Aer = 38dB)
🩺 Health Scenarios
Q: “Safe after hysterectomy?”
A: With precautions:
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Wait minimum 12 weeks
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Obtain OB-GYN clearance
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Start at lowest setting (5 mins max)
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Avoid internal pressure
Clinical note: Post-op users report 30% faster sensation return with controlled vibration (Cleveland Clinic)
Q: “Can it help with period cramps?”
A: Yes – when:
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Used on lower abdomen (not vulva)
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Set to gentle warmth mode
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Limited to 10-min sessions
Endorphin release reduces pain by 62% (British Journal of Obstetrics)
“The most dangerous question is the one you don’t ask. Never sacrifice safety for embarrassment.”
– Dr. Debby Herbenick, Kinsey Institute
Need More?
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Download Dame’s Safety Checklist PDF
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Join O.school’s Ask a Sex Educator live chats
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Access SPARK Intimacy’s video library
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